One of the important points to understand about Job is that nothing he says can be found to be misrepresenting, twisting or distorting in any way, the truth of God’s Word. What Job is repeatedly saying might be summed up as, “I have not sinned, so I don’t know why God is doing this to me”. His three friends’ responses essentially boil down to, “You’re either lying about or somehow unaware of your sin, and therefore we know exactly why God is doing this to you!” And that is why, even on those occasions where the substance of what they say may be true, it still does not apply. Espousing any truth does not make up for the lack of the right truth.
And so there is a second aspect of the friends’ responses which comes into play: they see their arguments as more important than the person. In fact, much of their identity and self-esteem seems to become entwined with their responses to the degree that they transition from “ministry” to “debater”. They wield the truth they have, even though it really doesn’t apply, so that they forget the manner in which it is to be applied if it is going to be effective:
but speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in all aspects into Him who is the head, even Christ,
— Ephesians 4:15
But often times what is actually going on is the use of the truth not just to establish some kind of position over someone else, but as a tool for elevating our self. While God’s Word obviously has supreme authority over us, man’s words—even when he is using God’s Words, is not a license to ultimately treat people poorly or to raise our own standing above another’s.